Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Everything I needed to know I learned from Mimi!
Last night as Mimi and I sat discussing life and other general topics over cheeseburgers and fries I said, "We complete each other. You ground me". Not in the Tom Cruise/ Renee Zelleweger manner, but in a great friendship way. She told me she had recently said to her hubby, "I don't like to take things away from my girlfriends." Meaning- she is dedicated to her friendships. (Remember I mentioned in another post: Mimi is a fierce friend.) Which led me to thinking, I have learned a lot from my Mimi:
1.It's ok to "just say no". I, like Mimi, have somewhat of a problem saying no to people. But when Mimi came back into my life I started to think about the fact that I have to take better care of me. There are too many people and relationships that just suck the life right out of you and leave you hollow. Wondering wtf just happened.
2.I don't need a man to "complete me". I can complete myself or allow my friendships and relationships in other areas to nourish me.
3.Sometimes making a "To-do list" is a good thing! haha
4.The heart has no limits or boundaries, there is room for everyone. Each friendship can mean something different to a person, but all be as equally important.
5.There is never an end to a great friendship. Maybe just a hiatus. ;p
6. Big erasers are for life mistakes and it's ok to forget them and forgive yourself.
7. Some days are just going to be a waste of make-up and that's how it is.
8. A good girlfriend will just pick up the phone, say "hello", and begin listening without interruption or thoughts in the back of her head of "I can't get a word in edge wise".
9. You each have talents you can share and teach the other. I thought there was nothing Mimi didn't already know, but I was actually able to teach her a skill she had no idea about.
10. Last and certainly never least in my book, my mad cooking skills. Together we have perfected a mean quesadilla, casseroles, and a love of dip!
These are the things I lost sight of during our "hiatus", but was able to quickly regain. Oh there is one thing I forgot:
11. A great friendship will always pick up right where it left off without missing a beat!
1.It's ok to "just say no". I, like Mimi, have somewhat of a problem saying no to people. But when Mimi came back into my life I started to think about the fact that I have to take better care of me. There are too many people and relationships that just suck the life right out of you and leave you hollow. Wondering wtf just happened.
2.I don't need a man to "complete me". I can complete myself or allow my friendships and relationships in other areas to nourish me.
3.Sometimes making a "To-do list" is a good thing! haha
4.The heart has no limits or boundaries, there is room for everyone. Each friendship can mean something different to a person, but all be as equally important.
5.There is never an end to a great friendship. Maybe just a hiatus. ;p
6. Big erasers are for life mistakes and it's ok to forget them and forgive yourself.
7. Some days are just going to be a waste of make-up and that's how it is.
8. A good girlfriend will just pick up the phone, say "hello", and begin listening without interruption or thoughts in the back of her head of "I can't get a word in edge wise".
9. You each have talents you can share and teach the other. I thought there was nothing Mimi didn't already know, but I was actually able to teach her a skill she had no idea about.
10. Last and certainly never least in my book, my mad cooking skills. Together we have perfected a mean quesadilla, casseroles, and a love of dip!
These are the things I lost sight of during our "hiatus", but was able to quickly regain. Oh there is one thing I forgot:
11. A great friendship will always pick up right where it left off without missing a beat!
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
You're dating/sleeping with or CONSIDERING an IDIOT!!
Since I have so much experience in this department I figured instead of bitching about this sad topic any more in my life I would begin to use it as fodder for my writing because nothing makes a situation funnier than being able to laugh at yourself!! (At least that is what I will keep telling myself)
There are always those old adages: "If he's not calling you, he doesn't dig you.", "If he's not sleeping with you, he doesn't dig you," so on and so forth, but there are also the other small red flags that sometimes get ignored. Such as:
1. If he asks you for gas money to come visit YOU and you haven't been in a long term relationship.....A)he's a loser and B)he's a loser who will take ANY AND ALL of your money!
2. If he has a place of his own and you have dropped him off there, but you have never seen the inside of it and the only place you hang out with him is a friend's house AND he sleeps there on the couch like it's The Holiday Inn...yea, rethink that one as well!! Especially if he says "Oh, it's only because I need to have the utilities cut BACK on!!" Seriously???
3. If you go out for dinner or drinks and he doesn't even give a "courtesy reach" for his wallet when the bill comes...tell him you have to hit the bathroom and never look back!
4. If you meet him while he's passing through town on "business" and calls you every day of said business trip saying he is stopping through on his way back but then cancels at the last possible second while you have had dinner made for about an hour or so and then never calls you again or won't return txts, be happy he was only "passing through" and chalk it up to some kind of "Bridges of Madison County" type bullshit minus the sex. Oh and minus the love as well. Ok and minus any type of bridge. Not that this has ever happened to me, I'm just sayin.
5. If the phone mysteriously disconnects multiple times while you talk to him...EVERY TIME you talk to him maybe you should hang up too!
6. If you begin discussing books and he tells you he has read just about everything.......while he was in PRISON!! Get rid of your library card!!
7. Further along those lines if his favorite accessory is a government issued ankle bracelet....I don't need to say any more!
8. If he addresses you as "One Foxy Lady" not only is he an idiot, but he's also probably too old for you! Do you really want to pursue things and be required to see that naked? Your answer is no!
9. If he slips you a business card and then whispers, "Call me" and he has written his name and number on the back because it isn't even HIS card.......let him know he can get FREE business cards at Vistaprint since he likes them so much.
10. And finally.....more than one cell phone....DRUG DEALER!!
Disclaimer:Dear Family, NO I have never dated anyone who has been in prison or has been a drug dealer. I feel the need to get that out of the way before it comes up!
There are always those old adages: "If he's not calling you, he doesn't dig you.", "If he's not sleeping with you, he doesn't dig you," so on and so forth, but there are also the other small red flags that sometimes get ignored. Such as:
1. If he asks you for gas money to come visit YOU and you haven't been in a long term relationship.....A)he's a loser and B)he's a loser who will take ANY AND ALL of your money!
2. If he has a place of his own and you have dropped him off there, but you have never seen the inside of it and the only place you hang out with him is a friend's house AND he sleeps there on the couch like it's The Holiday Inn...yea, rethink that one as well!! Especially if he says "Oh, it's only because I need to have the utilities cut BACK on!!" Seriously???
3. If you go out for dinner or drinks and he doesn't even give a "courtesy reach" for his wallet when the bill comes...tell him you have to hit the bathroom and never look back!
4. If you meet him while he's passing through town on "business" and calls you every day of said business trip saying he is stopping through on his way back but then cancels at the last possible second while you have had dinner made for about an hour or so and then never calls you again or won't return txts, be happy he was only "passing through" and chalk it up to some kind of "Bridges of Madison County" type bullshit minus the sex. Oh and minus the love as well. Ok and minus any type of bridge. Not that this has ever happened to me, I'm just sayin.
5. If the phone mysteriously disconnects multiple times while you talk to him...EVERY TIME you talk to him maybe you should hang up too!
6. If you begin discussing books and he tells you he has read just about everything.......while he was in PRISON!! Get rid of your library card!!
7. Further along those lines if his favorite accessory is a government issued ankle bracelet....I don't need to say any more!
8. If he addresses you as "One Foxy Lady" not only is he an idiot, but he's also probably too old for you! Do you really want to pursue things and be required to see that naked? Your answer is no!
9. If he slips you a business card and then whispers, "Call me" and he has written his name and number on the back because it isn't even HIS card.......let him know he can get FREE business cards at Vistaprint since he likes them so much.
10. And finally.....more than one cell phone....DRUG DEALER!!
Disclaimer:Dear Family, NO I have never dated anyone who has been in prison or has been a drug dealer. I feel the need to get that out of the way before it comes up!
Monday, August 22, 2011
Sunday, August 21, 2011
Friday, August 19, 2011
LIVE from my phone..........
Look out this could get interesting!! I can now blog directly from my phone!!! The "graveyard shift" is about to get REAL interesting!!
While I'm here...why is it SO HARD for some people to answer direct questions? Such as: "Have I offended you?" or "Are you ok?". Let's just say this: S.S. you are rude! Just rude!! Thank you, that is all!
While I'm here...why is it SO HARD for some people to answer direct questions? Such as: "Have I offended you?" or "Are you ok?". Let's just say this: S.S. you are rude! Just rude!! Thank you, that is all!
Thursday, August 18, 2011
32 flavors and then some.....
1. I have at least 100 laughs and if you are lucky enough maybe you will know me well enough to have heard them all.
2. Hatred is useless. It harbors your soul.
3. I am a fierce friend, the fiercest I have met.(other than Mimi)
4. I will ALWAYS stand up for the "little man".
5. As mentioned in another blog post "I lay my own shit bare" because there's no better way.
6. I won't say anything behind your back that I wouldn't say to your face!
7. Because ...the truth is always more fun!
8. I don't hold grudges for very long, but I only give so many chances.
9. Once you have burned that bridge with me you are done.
10. I know my downfalls and don't usually need them pointed out.
11. Because...I'm hardest on myself.
12. Admitting when you are wrong is a sign of strong character in my book.
13. If the answer is NO I will usually find a way around it!
14. I'm never afraid to show my emotions.
15. In general, I'm not afraid of anything or anyone!
16. I can be a best friend or a horrid enemy,
17. but I will still help even an enemy in need.
18. I will always listen as well as I talk.
19. My emotions are often worn on my face,
20. while my heart is worn on my sleeve.
21. I am my own worst critic,
22. but I have no problem telling you what I know I can do very well!
23. My heart is very big,
24. but my huge heart is what sometimes gets me in trouble.
25. I believe when one door closes another will always open somewhere.
26. I'm STILL hoping I get better at recognizing my mistakes as I get older.
27. I have "child like" enthusiasm at times.
28. I am highly under estimated by others at times
29. and sometimes I surprise even myself!
30. It's very easy for me to see the worst in other people. Sometimes it's a gift, but most of the time a curse.
31. I'm trying to fix all of that.
32. I will always be JUST ME and if you don't like it.....F@#$ OFF!
2. Hatred is useless. It harbors your soul.
3. I am a fierce friend, the fiercest I have met.(other than Mimi)
4. I will ALWAYS stand up for the "little man".
5. As mentioned in another blog post "I lay my own shit bare" because there's no better way.
6. I won't say anything behind your back that I wouldn't say to your face!
7. Because ...the truth is always more fun!
8. I don't hold grudges for very long, but I only give so many chances.
9. Once you have burned that bridge with me you are done.
10. I know my downfalls and don't usually need them pointed out.
11. Because...I'm hardest on myself.
12. Admitting when you are wrong is a sign of strong character in my book.
13. If the answer is NO I will usually find a way around it!
14. I'm never afraid to show my emotions.
15. In general, I'm not afraid of anything or anyone!
16. I can be a best friend or a horrid enemy,
17. but I will still help even an enemy in need.
18. I will always listen as well as I talk.
19. My emotions are often worn on my face,
20. while my heart is worn on my sleeve.
21. I am my own worst critic,
22. but I have no problem telling you what I know I can do very well!
23. My heart is very big,
24. but my huge heart is what sometimes gets me in trouble.
25. I believe when one door closes another will always open somewhere.
26. I'm STILL hoping I get better at recognizing my mistakes as I get older.
27. I have "child like" enthusiasm at times.
28. I am highly under estimated by others at times
29. and sometimes I surprise even myself!
30. It's very easy for me to see the worst in other people. Sometimes it's a gift, but most of the time a curse.
31. I'm trying to fix all of that.
32. I will always be JUST ME and if you don't like it.....F@#$ OFF!
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Shut-ins, vampires, the Living Dead, and new spidey friends!
So, I am now moved into my new humble dwellings which are roommate and boyfriend free! (free from her and hers that is)
I wasn't sure how I would adjust to being alone again, but I actually forgot how much I like it. Being in a stress free environment is AUH-MAZING!! (as my sis from anotha miss. would say)
I'm already writing again, which is excellent!
I don't know too much about the neighbors yet and I have a feeling I won't as they ALL appear to be shut-ins or vampires and I have yet to see any of them aside from one. Which is perfectly fine with me.
Aside from that single, solitary neighbor who apparently is NOT part of the living dead, the only other creature I ever see is the Orb Weaving Spider which has taken up residence outside my door. Typically, I hate spiders ..ok actually I flip out when I see one, but I digress....but I noticed this not so tiny creature was there every night basking under the moonlight as I left for work, but it and it's entire web were gone in the morning when I returned. After a little fascination and research I discovered what he/she is and I have decided to go against the better judgement of my best friend Mimi who instructed me to take a can of hairspray and a lighter to it. (I have to admit that was my first inclination too)
And the only noise to speak of came last night at about 3 am when I could hear the next door neighbor.....let's just say that must have been having one hell of a dream because he was making quite a racket!! hahaha At least that's what I hope I was hearing otherwise I need to run bleach through my ears!
These are the ramblings of my new stress free home and life!! (for now at least! hahaha)
I wasn't sure how I would adjust to being alone again, but I actually forgot how much I like it. Being in a stress free environment is AUH-MAZING!! (as my sis from anotha miss. would say)
I'm already writing again, which is excellent!
I don't know too much about the neighbors yet and I have a feeling I won't as they ALL appear to be shut-ins or vampires and I have yet to see any of them aside from one. Which is perfectly fine with me.
Aside from that single, solitary neighbor who apparently is NOT part of the living dead, the only other creature I ever see is the Orb Weaving Spider which has taken up residence outside my door. Typically, I hate spiders ..ok actually I flip out when I see one, but I digress....but I noticed this not so tiny creature was there every night basking under the moonlight as I left for work, but it and it's entire web were gone in the morning when I returned. After a little fascination and research I discovered what he/she is and I have decided to go against the better judgement of my best friend Mimi who instructed me to take a can of hairspray and a lighter to it. (I have to admit that was my first inclination too)
And the only noise to speak of came last night at about 3 am when I could hear the next door neighbor.....let's just say that must have been having one hell of a dream because he was making quite a racket!! hahaha At least that's what I hope I was hearing otherwise I need to run bleach through my ears!
These are the ramblings of my new stress free home and life!! (for now at least! hahaha)
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